I am totally maternal! No choice it felt it was instinct, inbred just who I was. At 63 I wish I had been aware I had choices. I don’t necessarily say my choices would have been different, but I totally and wholeheartedly respect and applaud your choice. NO ONE should ever shame or hate on any of your choices, my words to them would be very “Choice” lol. Enjoy and Embrace your chosen path and tell All those who think “they have the right to give you their opinions” to do one, as applicable. Be happy and Stay Blessed in Life, however you choose to live it 🙏❤️
I completely understand that! "It felt like instinct, just who I was." I also totally and wholeheartedly respect and applaud your choice, and it sounds like you are very happy with it.
So true!! There are so many reasons for and against having kids. I always love reading articles like this because I think people are constantly pressured into societal norms that do not work for everyone. We have one child, and that is more than enough. We love our little guy; there are a lot of joys and life experiences you can only have with kids, but we made the choice in our 40s. And I very much agree with you about old age. There are no guarantees. Many of us don't even live in the same cities or continents as our families.
I find that so funny because a century ago, the "ideal" was 3 or 4 or more kids. Which just goes to show that people's ideas of "perfect family size" can and often do change over time.
That said, I think when it comes to ideal family size, everyone wins as long as they do what's authentic for them (and what they have the capacity for). For some, that's zero kids, for others, it's three kids. And for some, it might be a few beloved step kids or foster kids.
What a touching, personal account, Sascha! And so well-articulated. Thank you so much for sharing this important message with us. I'm sure your words will give solace to people who choose a similar path. I may be one of them.
Thank you! I feel that this is an important topic to talk about, and many people might feel lonely in their decision. I think there needs to be more understanding of one another, whether you're a parent or not.
I am totally maternal! No choice it felt it was instinct, inbred just who I was. At 63 I wish I had been aware I had choices. I don’t necessarily say my choices would have been different, but I totally and wholeheartedly respect and applaud your choice. NO ONE should ever shame or hate on any of your choices, my words to them would be very “Choice” lol. Enjoy and Embrace your chosen path and tell All those who think “they have the right to give you their opinions” to do one, as applicable. Be happy and Stay Blessed in Life, however you choose to live it 🙏❤️
I completely understand that! "It felt like instinct, just who I was." I also totally and wholeheartedly respect and applaud your choice, and it sounds like you are very happy with it.
So true!! There are so many reasons for and against having kids. I always love reading articles like this because I think people are constantly pressured into societal norms that do not work for everyone. We have one child, and that is more than enough. We love our little guy; there are a lot of joys and life experiences you can only have with kids, but we made the choice in our 40s. And I very much agree with you about old age. There are no guarantees. Many of us don't even live in the same cities or continents as our families.
And once you have a child, the pressure is all about having a second child! You can't win.
I find that so funny because a century ago, the "ideal" was 3 or 4 or more kids. Which just goes to show that people's ideas of "perfect family size" can and often do change over time.
That said, I think when it comes to ideal family size, everyone wins as long as they do what's authentic for them (and what they have the capacity for). For some, that's zero kids, for others, it's three kids. And for some, it might be a few beloved step kids or foster kids.
Yes! No one leaves you alone until you have two children -lol!
What a touching, personal account, Sascha! And so well-articulated. Thank you so much for sharing this important message with us. I'm sure your words will give solace to people who choose a similar path. I may be one of them.
Thank you! I feel that this is an important topic to talk about, and many people might feel lonely in their decision. I think there needs to be more understanding of one another, whether you're a parent or not.
Choosing prosecco over Peppa Pig - love that!! 🥂🥂
Someone I know who's a parent told me "Prosecco is the only way to get through Peppa Pig" and I can totally imagine that to be true!